Confessions of dating "Not The One"

Sometimes the changes we seek from others, especially those closest in our lives, are the changes that we actually want to effectuate in ourselves.

Similarly, the criticisms or judgments we make of others are the critiques we impose on ourselves, consciously or unconsciously.

The point? You have all the answers within your very own self. Whilst you can admire and appreciate certain aspects in another it doesn't necessarily mean you need to own, possess or have these qualities through the 'having' of the person. We can appreciate someone without needing to 'own' them.'

As the saying goes, "Be the change you want to see."

Accept the other as they are here and now because this is who they are and who they can/will remain being for the rest of their life. Of course, there is also the possibility for people to change and they do many times, however, it's not a certainty.


Truth is I am very thankful, grateful and fortunate to have a loving partner in my life (back in March 2014). This is what I have always wanted, my heart's deepest desire, and it has come true. Someone special with all the qualities I listed and I am so surprised he fills them all!*Written in March 2014.

Confession:

I do not yet have a feeling that he is "the one" - if there even is such a thing - however my Inner Being and intuition invites me to be patient, take it easy and take my time enjoying the development of the relationship, and to give it a chance. Love grows over time and not on trees...

There is such a thing as a 'spark' or 'chemistry' and while I don't feel it quite yet, it can develop over time.

Perhaps the value is to have someone with whom I enjoy being, sharing time, whom I can trust and be myself.

Confession/ Living "As-If"
I want to experience and feel the spark when I see my husband; I delight in feeling his soft aggression, and sturdy masculine energy - we are perfect complements to each other.
We are both deeply in love and have a loving, passionate, understanding, supportive and caring relationship with each other. Thank you, dear Universe, for giving me and blessing me with the most wonderful caring partners in the universe for me!!! I am so, so happy and so, so ecstatic and I am with my soul mate, life partner and handsome man of my dreams.

Notes from Positive Audio Book "Beyond Positive Thinking" by Dr. Joseph Anthony

Only you can create what you want.

We are creative being and we always have the capacity to build more!

Creating on the conscious level > Make more choices

Right thinking is based on your personal truth > Never settle into self-satisfaction.

Live in present moment yet also important to grow from where we are.

Trust the power within you - Trust your instinct.

Current Sources of dissatisfaction i.e. motivation:

-          Body/Physique improvement

-          Financial growth

-          Career Achievement – Creating something new, being recognized

-          Learning more, get smarter.

Life is a game.

What game am I playing? I choose to play happiness, abundance and faith.

How can I feel more motivated and excited about my work and daily work???

I’m asking for more motivation, inspiration – PUSH to move myself with positive, healthy reinforcement. I want to be guided and pushed through by my INTERNAL POSITIVE DESIRE! Not fear, tight deadline, stress or external pressure…

Overcoming Emotional Lows: Deliberately Choosing My Thoughts

 Emotions & Thoughts - 

The Power of Deliberate Choice

We all have our ups and downs, and today I experienced one of those emotional “lows” while training – thank God it’s an increasingly unusual phenomenon in my reality :-). Somehow I was feeling a rising tide of sad thoughts, loneliness, etc. For some bizarre reason I felt teary, sad, blah and then I thought it must be hormonal. I asked myself, Why??? Where is this coming from???

In fact, there was no basis or foundation for my low emotions – I have every reason in the Universe to be joyful, happy and ecstatic. And I am. Still, today these feelings were just lightly floating onto my reality perhaps seeking to plant themselves. Even if it is hormonal this is NOT how I want to feel. 

With the power of my will and magnificent brain, I stopped and ‘looked” at those thoughts and acknowledged that these unhelpful, unresourceful thoughts are not me – they are simply floating thoughts passing by, and I chose to let them pass away.

*Consciousness*

I took the initiative to give this interplay of thoughts and feelings a physical manifestation by drawing – in a sense taking control of them, rather than letting them amplify and take control of me.

That’s when I held 2 contradictory thoughts – (1) We are what we think about, and (2) You are NOT your thoughts, thoughts are simply thoughts and don’t necessarily define you.

I concluded that I am the thoughts I CHOOSE and the thoughts I consciously SELECT and entertain as my focus; I am not those thoughts that drop in willy-nilly from time to time who knows from where, and which serve no benefit in my overall reality.

Any situation in life is how we *choose* to interpret it and the meaning we assign to it; things, people, places and experiences only have value because we CHOOSE to view them so.

I choose to use my brain, mental faculties, and I choose to want to always feel great, happy and loved.

In life, some things come and stay; and some things come and go forevermore.

Thoughts are exactly the same.

Every day is a journey and there is always, always, always something to be grateful for. Love is all around us, surrounding you and me. Abundance supersedes all things and permeates every facet of our experience if we consciously put on our “Spectacles of Abundance" :-).

2 Invaluable Blessings: Freedom of Choice and Peace of Mind

Love <3 xoxo